I know that's a very controversial statement and I am probably going to get harder in the comments in making it. Nevertheless, it's authentic. I do not care if my children like me. I know they love me, also I need them to respect me. However, they don't need to enjoy me. In actuality, if they like me on a regular basis then I'm definitely not doing my job for being a parent. This is the socalled demanding love in good parenting.
Right and Wrong
Children- our position is to get our kids ready for your world. We are likely to show them right and wrong, how you can balance a check book, how to do laundry, and how to take care of others who have compassion and respect. We're also designed to teach them that they truly are not planning to have everything they want. And that life sometimes isn't fair. And that hard workis hard, and sometimes that you don't get yourself a cookie cutter or money by the end of it. Our children want us to show them how to navigate life, and sometimes that means doing things they do not like. Even when they say they despise me, in fact specially if they state they hate me, I know they're learning and that I'm doing my own job.
After I was seven that I stole two dollars out of my mum's wallet. I needed a novel. About horses, I think. I asked for the money and she said no. So I took it, and went to the book store and purchased the book. She captured me later about reading the novel and asked me where I got the money. I lied to her but she already knew I had taken it out of her purse. She told me that I could continue to keep the book but I had to make the dollars and she gave me a list of actions that had to be accomplished. My mum took the book and told me that I might get it back when the chores were done.
I used to be so mad in her. I had to sweep our long, curling, mountain of a drive and that I had been simply raging in her under my breath the whole time. However, once I got older I realized what she taught me that day. And today I do exactly the same things with my kiddies. They have been learning how to function as operational adults and very good folks. Therefore if that means they think I'm the meanest mom alive sometimes I am alright with this. And you need to be too.
Responsible Kiddies
We aren't doing our children any favors by choosing the simple route and being their pals. Our kids need us to measure up and become answerable. To function as the adults. Also also to suggest to them how to be engaged, busy, honest, educated adults who are able to manage the hassles of life without falling apart. So once you never say no to your kids or you also fret about whether or not they like you instead of whether or not they are learning you are failing them. Stop being their friend and begin being a parent. They will thank you later on, I guarantee it.